One can find a decent amount of printed thought on living the life of your dreams. Typically this sentiment predicates itself too often around the carefree, do your own thing approach that either avoids immediate realities or brings into question normal adult responsibilities.
Some have suggestions that, while valid, play out unreasonably. The author’s antagonism sought after is discontentment. Too many people fall victim to vain imaginations because much of our society has embraced an entitled mentality and subsurface narcissism.
Thoughts: When things get tough in life, that’s when the rubber hits the road. You never know what you’re made of until things go bad. And when life doesn’t turn out the way you wanted or thought it should have, what is your reaction, attitude or outlook?
We all have difficulties in this present life and go through trials and tribulations. What is it we get frustrated or resentful of? Things breaking down, someone doing better than us, life being unfair?
Hopefully our coping skills are not to run away or ignore the situations that beleaguer us.
Beyond frustration lies the land of discontentment. Unfortunately some of us don’t pass through but buy property and stay there for years. And if we stay in that land long enough, discontentment will not stay in the background of our souls, but reveal itself into our day to day interpersonal relationships.
We can become hard to live with and disagreeable when life isn’t what (we think) it should be. Are we ill-tempered and unreasonable because we’re delusional in imagining life differently? Unable to accept or come to terms with the fact that this is where we are at.
We must also deal with life as it is, not exclusively where we want it to be. Otherwise, ignoring or resisting responsibilities and obligations will produce self-defeating mechanisms.
If change is truly wanted or needed, then an honest, objective evaluation with mature input from trusted counsel should be organized. Maybe the change is even needed internally.
Ask a few questions like: What can or can’t I control? What can be done differently, what can’t? What obstacles are in my way? What allies are available? What are the pros and cons of different decisions and pathways? What steps can I make to initiate and continue to affect change? Is this a want or need? Is this realistic?
You can’t quit your job and not have any money to support your family. That’s not living your dream, it’s being negligent. 2 Thess 3:10B NIV, “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.”
You can’t spend all your time doing what you love when your kids or spouse need help. 1 Tim 5:8 warns that if a man won’t provide for his own family he is worse than an infidel.
You can’t change the past or undo mistakes made, but we all can do better moving forward. Sometimes we have to embrace a negotiated resignation: Which means we must accept where we are in life. Whatever its current responsibilities, demands, commitments and make provisional efforts towards a pragmatic, yet visionary pursuit of goals and aspirations. Think Psalm 119:105 KJV, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.”
Being content in all things doesn’t mean resign yourself to your fate with no thought or care to do more or better, it really means don’t become so discontented that your life produces bad effect on yourself and family/others. It also means to not sin because of discontentment, which usually comes from comparing.
There is nothing wrong with a healthy discontentment that seeks positive improvement. Who doesn’t want to live the life of their dreams? But perhaps if we lived the life we have, and embraced it, the appeal of something more or different wouldn’t be as attractive.
Some of us are struggling so hard to get out of what we have, into something we want, that we’re missing the life we do have, and its worth in living for.
If we would water the grass on this side of the fence, it wouldn’t look so much greener on the other side. Read Phil 4:10-12.