Beat boredom during school break
Q. I think I’m the only kid in the world who is in a hurry to get back to school. I’m so bored during this break. It’s too long. I just live with my mom and she works two jobs. I don’t connect with my school friends when I’m not in school because I don’t have a phone. Is it weird that I miss being at school? – 13-year-old
Mary Jo’s Response: It’s not weird at all. I loved school. I missed my school friends during breaks as well. I’m glad school is a safe space for you. I’m glad you have school friends.
I hear loneliness in your message. I have a few ideas to help you feel less alone. If you live near Washington, have you considered attending the Common Ground Teen Center? We’re at 92 N. Main Street. We are open from 4 to 8 p.m. Monday through Friday. We offer great activities, like D & D on Mondays, Art Club on Wednesdays, Cooking Club on Thursdays, and Video Game Club on Fridays. Friday is also Games Night. The center is a safe and accepting place where you can make friends and have fun.
Unfortunately, the center is closed until Jan. 6. I know a few of our Teen Executive Board members who would be happy to connect with you through our private chat on Discord until we open again. I’m not tech-savvy like teens are, but I’ve been told you can use Discord through a Chromebook. You must have a laptop or Chromebook, since you sent me an email. With your permission, I can help connect you. Just let me know.
What brings you joy? Keeping busy helps with boredom. Have you considered these activities:
Read a book: I made sure I had a few good library books before every school break when I was your age.
Exercise: Staying physical helps keep us healthy and is distracting.
Create a project: Everyone is artistic in their own way. Painting or drawing are wonderful ways to pass the time and express yourself. I learned to crochet at 12 and still make blankets as gifts. We even have a Crochet Club at the center.
Practice mindful breathing or meditation: Set aside time each day to center your breathing and concentrate.
Cook or bake: Ask your mom if you can use the microwave while she’s at work. Google microwave recipes and ask your mom to help you cook safely.
Write a story or a play: Surprise your mom or your teachers with your creativity.
Write a letter to a grandparent or older relative: Cards and letters can really cheer people up. One of the best ways to find joy is spreading joy.
Do a puzzle: Puzzles take time and focus.
Make a vision board for your room: A vision board lists your plans for the new year. It’s best to break it down into short term goals and long-term goals.
Clean and organize your room: Ask your mom if she has any area in your home where you could help organize or even redecorate. Surprise your mom by doing the laundry or helping with chores.
Finding what you enjoy as a hobby can help you feel less bored. Learning how to fill your time well is a life skill.
Talk with your mom and share your feelings with her, please. She may have suggestions for people with whom you could spend time while she’s at work. Do you have grandparents or other family near? She may be able to arrange connections for you. Let’s stay connected. You are worthy of friendship.
Have a question? Send it to Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski’s email podmj@healthyteens.com.