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Siblings and sharing Hey, Coach! We have a son who’s 19 and a daughter who’s 18. They seem to get along fairly well — until it comes to sharing the car.
We purchased a third car in April, just for them, so my husband and I aren’t as inconvenienced as we once were.
“Bill” thinks he should get the car when he wants it because he is the oldest. “Jen” feels she should have an equal share of getting the car.
While we favor Jen’s thinking, perhaps we have taken the easy way out by telling them they have to work things out between them.
Would you suggest that this plan is OK, or do you have a better suggestion?
Thank you Coach.
Signed……T-Bird
Dear T-Bird: The first thing that comes to mind is that, hopefully, Bill and Jen are very appreciative that their parents have given them the opportunity to have their own car, so to speak.
While there might be a number of different ways to approach this situation, the Coach may also be taking the easy way out by following suit and fully supporting your plan.
After all, your children are supposed to be young adults. Young adults work out matters such as this, let alone that they are family members.
With all of this said, it is unclear if either has a job/school or other important responsibilities going on in his/her life.
Things like that would be a priority for one party or the other.
However, the Coach is guessing that matters such as this are not even on the radar.
The guess here is that it’s having the car for social time each night during the summer. In closing, there’s always an option that perhaps needs to be communicated from time-to-time.
While the Coach isn’t big on threats or ultimatums, just as the car appeared one day, it could also disappear just as easily.
Bill and Jen need to respect each other and find a civil way to work out this matter without the drama.
Biggest Winner update
After gaining three pounds in our last update two weeks ago, Phil Michael got back on track and lost two pounds during each of the last two weeks.
In an attempt at humor, perhaps the Biggest Winner felt threatened by the possibility of the Coach lowering the hammer on him.
Phil has now gone from 386 to 317; a loss of 69 pounds since Jan. 1.
This past Monday, Phil started a strength-training program, and the Coach assured him that he could get a quality workout in less than 30 minutes, which he did. Phil has committed to lifting three times a week, so that’s only about 90 minutes each week.
The Coach also told Phil that he expects him to get down to at least 286 pounds for the Thanksgiving Turkey Trot — a loss of 100 pounds.
Phil has set a goal of jogging that 5K without stopping. He has a little over four more months to go, which is plenty of time to prepare for the race and also to meet the goal of losing 100 pounds.
Yes, we will have a little celebration “when” he accomplishes “both” of those goals.
Huey feted
The Coach had the pleasure of attending a recent dinner locally where Uniontown native Gene Huey was honored. As many of our readers know, Huey is a long-time assistant football coach for the Super Bowl champion Indianapolis Colts. Huey was very gracious and thanked many of the people who helped him along the way while growing up.
Al Owens also wooed the overflow crowd by giving a very animated tour through the streets of the East End, highlighting the incredible number of athletes to come out of that part of town. It was a Who’s Who Hall of Fame list, all living within just couple of blocks of each other. An interview with Gene can be seen on the next “Time Out for Sports” on HSTV.
Coach’s Comments: Formal education is a big part of our lives. Most of us that have given the subject any thought have come to realize that education is a continuous process ending only when ambition comes to a halt. Obviously, then, all of us are encouraged to never, ever, lose our ambitions.
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