Ask Carley: Registering for honeymoon activities
Q: We’re thinking about registering for honeymoon activities that guests can buy for us. Is this the way to go? Or should I just let people know where we’re going and hope they give us some cash to put toward our trip?
A: You shouldn’t leave it so open-ended. As with any other kind of registry, it’s better to tell people exactly what you want. Plus, it’s weird (and not the best etiquette) to ask for cash.
A lot of honeymoon destinations allow you to set up registries. Just make sure that guests know you’re registered at one by adding it to your wedding website. Guests will love gifting a special excursion or even a surprise bottle of wine for your honeymoon.
Q: Some close friends of ours just told us they want to pay for our photography as their wedding gift. When should we write a thank-you note to them – before or after the wedding?
A. How generous of them! There is no such thing as too many thank-you cards. Send your friends a note right away to say how excited you are to book the photographer and then another one after the wedding. Go an extra step and include a few of your favorite day-of photos.
(Carley Roney, co-founder and editor in chief of The Knot, advises millions of brides on modern wedding etiquette at www.theknot.com.)